The Booty Don’t Lie

Can “big booty privilege” make women mean?

Heyyy, how y’all doing? Good? Miss me? Cool…I had to throw some niceties in because my mind is on rapid and I gotta blog this before it gets lost in the vast randomness that is my mind. lol

So, if you’ve ever really paid attention, you all know I have on many occasion gotten inspiration for this blog by simply listening to friends, chatting with them in the inbox and such…so today is no different.

It started with a very ugly tweet thread I saw on tumblr. I won’t say who it was, not because I fear the backlash, but because I don’t believe in calling out behavior like that publicly if I’m not going to go HARD and be a FRIEND about it by taking it privately first. I feel very strongly about things like this, but I know my audience. I’m familiar with how folks can be and it would only get uglier and honestly, I don’t have the energy for a back and forth with folks who come with armies of ass kissers.

ANYWAY…

What I can’t stand is the mean girl syndrome. The bullying. *breathes deeply* Where do I damn start?

Okay, FIRST…let me address this thing that people have with “atting” celebrities their ugly opinions. Blogging, commenting, etc…publicly…addressing these people you DON’T know but THINK you do. I know that because we buy and support their music, movies, art, businesses, etc…we feel some sense of entitlement to their persona…and that’s partially true. Their PERSONA is ours to love or hate, laud or reject. Their PERSON, is theirs. Not ours. JUST because someone lives in the public eyes due to stardom doesn’t mean we arbitrarily have the right to go in on them when we feel like it. They’re humans…extraordinary ones with extraordinary jobs and lives…but, humans nonetheless. It’s NOT our right to barbecue them for the way they choose to live or share or react to the world. YOU try having your entire life laid out for public consumption like an open buffet with no lids. Imagine all the fingers and germs that could get into your life if they could. Folks go in on celebs for being a whore (4-5 monogamous relationships back to back does NOT a whore make)…but, let us see YOUR little black book. If the cameras and paps were everywhere you were…who would the public think you were?

Secondly…the Internet has a penchant for saying everything that’s on its mind. You see a big woman in something you think makes her look nasty? You tell her. You see a man with a small penis? You tell him. You see a woman with an unflattering hairstyle or a baby with a “ghetto” name or a man with one tooth in his head…and what do you do? You tell him. WHY is that? Didn’t your parents teach you to not say ANY thing if it weren’t nice? Why does the Internet have you all so programmed to be cruel at the drop of a dime? Do better Internet…really.

Thirdly, this shit with judging folks on a regular basis, having fun at other people’s expense with retweets, hashtags, memes and GIFS is a little out of control. Is it okay to laugh at something funny? Sure…I love to laugh and do so often. I actually prefer to giggle at cat and dog fuckery, but that’s just me…

I digress.

Knowing someone’s life online and then constantly reminding them of a time they’re most likely trying to forget is beyond disrespectful. How would any of you like it if, if the one thing you were trying to let go of…was constantly regurgitated back to you? I did that to someone once…without even knowing it…and when I heard that it hurt her, I apologized. No one needs constant reminders of what they’ve done wrong. Most of us are far harder on ourselves than anyone else could ever be.

…stop being hypocrites y’all. I have seen in this past month, folks get on Twitter, Facebook, tumblr and blogs and tout their support of Trayvon, but then turn around and dismember Rachel Jeantel publicly ad nauseum. You’ll say, “No Justice, No Peace” but then use that same tongue to break someone down whom you dislike or find amusing. NO one should be your amusement to the point that it dehumanizes them and makes you feel no remorse for it. That’s so ugly.

Lastly, I find a lot of the women on the Internet…specifically Black women (yea I said that shit) who, because they are a certain skin tone or body build (see waist to hip ratio aka hourglass aka pear shaped, etc) believe they CAN be mean to others. Oh, and NO…I do not have a booty and I ain’t jealous. I have noassatall, but trust and believe with the sweetness that is my name *Kiwi*…booty don’t mean nothing to me. Besides…I walk like I got one 😉

Is it because they’ve spent a lifetime being complimented and adored by men and women, alike…that they feel like they can step over other people without so much as a whimpered “excuse me”? I see these chicks on Twitter with these huge followings. People telling them everyday how cool they are, how gorgeous they are, how fine their body is…has seemingly caused them to be megalomaniacs. Too much of a good thing CAN be detrimental…and clearly is. Chicks thinking because they’re the typically coveted body image…they can mistreat, disrespect and wave a “no fucks” hand at everyone they see fit to. Not cool ladies. We sisters could be SO strong if we’d unite and be a driving force of positivity, but if you don’t stop the cattiness, the meanness, the cliquish attitudes and cockiness…we’ll be stuck RIGHT here. In this moment…and how is that beneficial for posterity?

It’s not.

I’mma leave you with “Queen” by Janelle Monae and Erykah Badu…because even though the booty don’t lie…it sure can exaggerate the truth.

“Be a queen, see a queen, respect a queen.” ~ Kween Kiwi/Keys

STFU!!! (a lil rant)

I’m gonna piggyback on a blog my girl [fungke] [blak] [chik] wrote, called “If You Can’t Take An Opinon, Stop Reading My Blog“. In it, she stated how often people say, “you’re hating” when it’s really an opinion. It’s ok you, know..NOT to like something or someone. We all have a right, so to speak…to our own opinions. I mean, I learned in elementary school the difference between fact and opinion. Need a recap? Fact is real, proven and indisputable. Opinion is a guess, a perceptive statement and easily refuted. I see it every day…people get riled up with opinion. It’s one of the reason why in spite of being somewhat of an “intellect” *gagging* I tend to work HARD of late…to keep my opinions to myself. I can remember when I used to debate a thing to death…but I so hate arguing nowadays. I’d be trying so hard…not to get them to agree…but to be open to why I’d think differently. You know how you say, “let’s agree to disagree”? That rarely happens. Most people walk away thinking either, “She’s a know-it-all” or “She’s an asshole”…and either way…the point you were trying to make falls away to stubborn opinion.

O-pin-ion..take the p and i out (your personal interest) and you have the word onion. LOL Yep…layers of shit that just brings tears…or just stinks. So, indeed…I know we have them and am used to people dispensing theirs like penny candy.

BUT…the hating? Well that is different. Hating to ME (my asshole) is when it’s not just an opinion…which usually stems from preference. It’s when it stems from an envy or jealousy. OR when it comes from self-hate and being unfulfilled personally. YES, people look at others who are doing them (without knowledge of their existence) and have “opinions” about everything. That person’s life, choices, achievements or lack of. I personally, don’t care what the hell someone else is doing with their lives. As long as they’re not hurting me or anyone I care about…why should I? Especially, if I don’t know them. I do look at people like politicians, religious heads and people in the position of fundamental responsibility, like teachers, doctors, etc…and care what influence THEY have on the world. They are a big part of what can go right and wrong with an average life. Yet still, I cannot judge, because in order to know you must go through it…in THEIR skin. Your shit…ain’t my shit…ain’t the next person’s shit. Two teen moms don’t necessarily share the same issues because of what THEIR own environment was like. One could’ve been supported by their family…the other not. SO…I keep my mouth shut unless it is something that is atrociously out of order for the sake of what is right.

Hating on people’s careers…choices…relationships…mistakes…etc…is a bit much to me. Everyone’s mouth is moving 24/7 about something that isn’t their shit to understand. STFU!!! Nit picking away every little thing…when your shit is CRACKED and on the ground, bitch.boo.bye! My girl Celeste said to me, “Hurt people, hurt people” and she was right. Broken, fractured, fragile people, sitting back hating…yes HATING on the success of others. If someone is out there, grinding it out…bless em. If someone is struggling against demons…bless em. If someone is trying to do something positive…bless em. Why is it so hard to just be happy for someone out there LIVING and not just BEING? Oh, and for the record…no one can remain at the top forever. We all have and will fall short. We all mess up and live to regret it…such is life…but, sitting back in judgment and disdain for others…especially folk who will never hear nor care about your little “opinion” is over the top, straight HATING!

This came from watching a SLEW of bullshit, hating-ass comments on Twitter. I’m so glad half of em were retweets…that way, I can be proud to not have been following some of these hateful individuals…PLEASE don’t make me break out that video!!! lmaoo