Steps to Social Media Cleansing: How to Delete

first they’re sour…lol

If you’ve been on the Internet long enough, you know that as quickly as we add friends…we subtract them as well. The social media networks are proverbial revolving doors. One day you’re e-besties…the next you’re blocking/blocked. Fights and misunderstandings not withstanding…there are times when “the list” must get purged free of stale connections and dead weight.

I’m a sentimental sap and at times…that’s a bad thing. I’ve often kept people on my list because ONCE we were fast friends, ONCE we spoke all of the time, or we grew up together and knew each other when. It’s not enough though. Social media SHOULD be a tool to not only get to know each other, but to grow from the experiences. Networking is a big thing on the Internet and it serves as a wonderful ladder to success…possibly.

Ultimately, it boils down to what kind of operation you’re running. Here are 5 tips to find out what you should do and why:

~ Do you know this person outside of social media?
    Yes? Would you speak to them in person?
    Yes? Keep.
    No. Delete
~ Is this person a business associate or personal?
    Business? — Keep. (unless they’re not serving a purpose)
    Personal? — See above
~ Is there an unresolved issue between you and this person?
    Yes? Do you care to resolve it?
    Yes? — Keep and Confront [in your own time]
    No? Delete.
~ If you don’t speak…is there another reason you hesitate? (ie. Games, Family, etc)
    Yes? Keep only if you play said games or they’re family.
    No? Delete.
~ Lastly, Do they add anything positive to your day/life?
    Yes? Keep.
    No? Delete

Of course, there are so many other factors. If your friend doesn’t come on often for some life reason or another, it’s best to keep them if when they DO come around they’re a pleasant addition to your feed/timeline. If they’re not…then let go. If you’ve allowed an issue to fester and don’t know how to approach it…give it time. If it fades, it wasn’t important, if it doesn’t…delete.

I for one am not impulsive. I don’t get mad and delete for no reason. You have to violate my code of friendship or association. I’m not rude. I’m not a judgmental person. I mind my own business. So if you cross lines that I can’t deal with, I’ll delete you. I’ve made the occasional rash decision and I’m not proud of that, but for the most part when I’ve cleaned my slate…I’m confident in my decision to do so.

For me, this place on the Internet is as much about evolving and learning as it is adding friendships and networking. It means nothing down the road if what’s being discussed and dealt with today is the same shit from the year before. I choose people who grow with me and who have inspiration to dispense.

I suppose, having said that…it’s time to purge again.

Leave YOUR tips to social media “pruning”. lol

Snapshot #5: Guilty Pleasure

Photo of: Guilty Pleasure

My guilty pleasure is Facebook. I’m an addict…I know it. I need help. I’m actually falling back. It can be a pain in the ass and once something that’s supposed to be entertainment, becomes a “chore”…it’s time to step away.

It’s kinda hard though. I  write constantly on blogs and offline working on stories, so Facebook is just a click away when I get bored and need something else to do.

As you can see…my banner is a grouping of butterflies ::CHEESE::…and I’m known by my first and middle name and not my last. That ain’t nobody’s bidness. LOL

So yea, my guilty pleasure…

**scribbling on screen** Send…help!

A Fly Chick and a Diva!

I love it when people’s passions translates into something tangible…something that stands as a manifestation of their taste, talent and determination. Whether it’s a man or woman…I want to stand by the creator of something beautiful with all that I can do. So many of us have talents and abilities that we say we want to grow and be recognized but what we do is coddle it in familiar territory for fear of expansion. We all know that once it expands by demand, it becomes a heavy responsibility to maintain that craft. Yet…if you think big…you never know who you can touch with the passion to begin their own passionate plunge into self-made business. Not QUITE the lemonade stand…but a bigger version of that. lol

I have two talented ladies to laud today. One is my girl Yesha. She’s known to the cybersphere as the FlyBlackChick. She’s UBER savvy with the ways of the net and how to capitalize off of it’s popularity. She was the one who inspired me to create this blog, because the now defunct social network we were on several years ago seemed far too small to share my ideas with. She also helped a friend of ours find ways to make money with his very popular blog with everything from political satire to a weekly sex blog for the grown, sexy and witty. She’s definitely good at helping the newbies of the net make their mark online. She’s been designing her own blog’s site for the longest…so of course…she designs others’. She also helps with social media and site development. GO…visit her site if you need ideas to give your site a professional face or need help in building up your business’s reach.


My next friend has been designing jewelry for the better part of a decade…going on 6 or more years of wowing us with her unique and beautiful jewelry pieces. She has the funkiest names for her lines and loves using colors…to express her very airy Aquarian art. I’ve actually had the link to her site on the side of my blog for over a year now…almost two. I pray you ladies (and gentlemen with ladies) are utilizing that link! *eying you* O_O lol

I received a pair of her hammered earrings from her “Bangin’ Beauties” line, yesterday and I was way too excited. I KNOW there will be more GGX in my future. I’ve got a couple of customized ideas for her, too. She’s flexible that way. For instance, my friend at work loves the earrings and though they come in silver, copper and gold…she wants to see if she can get it in a colored metal…like blue. I wouldn’t be surprised if Gina (Ms. GGX herself) found the metal to do it AND started a new line of colored hammered earrings! That’s how she does…she takes off with a base idea and cultivates it with a vast vision.

EVERYONE who saw my earrings, loved…Loved…LOVED them. What all the ladies at the job were most impressed with (besides the fact that the earrings when visually connected formed a  butterfly) …was that they were lightweight. They don’t weigh the ear down. You get that elongated or large hooped look without the damage to your lobes. That’s important for me since my lobes are sensitive and have a tendency to hurt from heavy earrings…even studs!

She has an Etsy site in addition to her own GGX Jewels site…and has a Facebook like page for her fans to photographically journal their journey in to the GGX experience…Glamour Girl Xpressions is JUST THAT…it’s glamourous and expresses the inner diva of each and every customer. GETCHUSUM!!!


Below are the ladies’ sites to check out for yourself!

Fly Chick Media
FlyBlackChick ~ The Blog


GGX on Facebook
GGX’ Official Site