Hurricane Sandy, Numbers and Prayers

a pic made for one of the special ladies who wrote me gorgeous words on Monday

**Firstly, I’d like to say…God bless those who were severely hit by Sandy this week. I pray a prayer of recovery, comfort, healing and renewal. I thank God for those who came out of it alive and able to connect with their family and friends. Amen**

Where I live it’s a very mountainous and hilly area. There are few places here that suffer severe flooding, but with trees everywhere…we’re in constant danger of very large, old trees falling haphazardly. So far, all I know…were not hit. A couple of my friends in OTHER areas did suffer from trees hitting their homes, but thankfully they were not hurt.

We had a couple of brown-outs and had some flickering, lots of wind, and of course the temperature dropped. Other than that…Thank God, We’re here.

During the storm…in between the Internet going off and on I got online and was kept occupied by a #’s game on Facebook. It’s a game a lot of people love and loathe at the same time. Some complain about the flooding of anonymous messages in their feeds (I don’t see how that is any different than any other status, any other day…but, people ain’t happy unless they’re spewing misery onto others). Most enjoyed the fun of showing love and honesty about their friends anonymously.

Truthfully, I didn’t get many numbers in my box (I guess no one gives a damn what I think, lmao) and I didn’t place my number in anyone’s inbox who hadn’t already put one in mine. I didn’t want to get swamped with having to tell folks what I thought of them. I’m on some IDGAF mess and someone could’ve wandered into a shit storm asking me for my opinion. lol

However…I got some REALLY cool opinions. I mean, when you’re friend to most…you don’t always hear or see or feel how people view you. To have someone tell you beautiful things is a breath of fresh air. It’s not some weak need to be validated like some cynical folks would say. It’s about the fact that with anyone…you need to remind people what they mean to you because the “knowing” can get lost in the day to day minutiae. Having said that…here are the ones I got. I’ll keep them anonymous for the sake of the game, but if you happen to know us then you may already know. LOL


25555- I LOVES ME SO YOU! You are so encouraging! Whenever I’m down if you even sense it you drop the simplest line that truly makes a difference in my mood. I cannot wait to meet you in person and spend some sister time. You’re the epitome of a sisterfriend and I so wish you were closer. God gave you a warm caring heart and you share it with those who love you. Your prayers made a difference more than you know…. SMOOCHES BABY


#2139 Brought together by a liar and a cheater (I just sang that right there) You are my ninja!! I TOLD you we were gonna meet in 2012!! My zodiac sista, My sista from anotha mista, my spirit sista. 

I love that you have given me my space this year because I don’t know what I’m doing or where I’m going half the time, but if something is REALLY wrong, I don’t even have to make a call because you’ve already seen and felt it. Unlike other folks, I’m not scared of you because it is the Spirit working through you.

I love you dearly and look forward to hanging out with you again in the future (hopefully the airlines won’t jack my travels up next time! I love you dearly and talk to you soon!


2139 Ughhhhhhh! THIS chick!
How you gonna be ALL up in my head? You know good and well that it’s ALREADY crowded in there with all my other voices. The only thing that I can think to say to let you know how much you have come to mean to me is…..I trust you! And you know how much me saying that REALLY means. You have been the beautiful surprise that I never knew I needed. We twin so much that sometimes it’s hard to remember who originally thought or said what. Thank you for being one of the few who have allowed me to dispense with the cape & who accepts & loves me….faults, weaknesses and all. You’re a beautiful loving soul who deserves someone just as amazing as you! Love you.


#2139.. Man where should I start… You are so special to me.. We had a little disagreement at first. Just cause the lines of communication wasn’t there. Then once we cleared the air.. You have BEEN ONE HELL OF A FRIEND.. As I struggle and have my days.. It is you who knows what to say.. Sometimes you don’t say nothing but listen.. I need that at times too.. We might not be close in miles.. But you sure as hell close to my heart.. You are a very loving person. Any person that have you in their life has a piece of GOLD.. Amazing, Beautiful, Loving, Honest, Caring, Artistic, Intelligent etc, etc, etc… Heck I can go on all day about you.. I ♥ you to pieces….


#25555, I think you’re an awesomely talented individual who can come up with some serious pearls of wisdom. Not only that, but you’re very pretty as well!


from the very first time i read something of yours i knew i had to keep reading.. i love your wit..i love how you love your friends.. you are you with no questions asked. you are kind,real, and i appreciate the silent support that you give me. i cannot WAIT to hug you! …oh, and i DO count you as a sister!



My constant… 

My constant friend.
My constant support. 
My constant ear.
My constant sister.
My constant everything. 

You are the bestest! You listen to my bitching, my complaining, my love stories, my horror stories and you tell me what I NEED to hear, not what I want to hear. Not too many people do that and I need you to know that I appreciate and love you more than words can say. 


…and there you have it.

Love on a stormy night. Friends in anonymous rejoicing…giving each other positive affirmation of their cherished life force. Nothing is better than that. Loving people, being loved and being considered. These people reminded me that I’m doing something right.

On that night, we told each other we loved one another, we prayed for each other’s safety and we were stronger than even Sandy.

Peace and Love to you all.

STFU!!! (a lil rant)

I’m gonna piggyback on a blog my girl [fungke] [blak] [chik] wrote, called “If You Can’t Take An Opinon, Stop Reading My Blog“. In it, she stated how often people say, “you’re hating” when it’s really an opinion. It’s ok you, know..NOT to like something or someone. We all have a right, so to speak…to our own opinions. I mean, I learned in elementary school the difference between fact and opinion. Need a recap? Fact is real, proven and indisputable. Opinion is a guess, a perceptive statement and easily refuted. I see it every day…people get riled up with opinion. It’s one of the reason why in spite of being somewhat of an “intellect” *gagging* I tend to work HARD of late…to keep my opinions to myself. I can remember when I used to debate a thing to death…but I so hate arguing nowadays. I’d be trying so hard…not to get them to agree…but to be open to why I’d think differently. You know how you say, “let’s agree to disagree”? That rarely happens. Most people walk away thinking either, “She’s a know-it-all” or “She’s an asshole”…and either way…the point you were trying to make falls away to stubborn opinion.

O-pin-ion..take the p and i out (your personal interest) and you have the word onion. LOL Yep…layers of shit that just brings tears…or just stinks. So, indeed…I know we have them and am used to people dispensing theirs like penny candy.

BUT…the hating? Well that is different. Hating to ME (my asshole) is when it’s not just an opinion…which usually stems from preference. It’s when it stems from an envy or jealousy. OR when it comes from self-hate and being unfulfilled personally. YES, people look at others who are doing them (without knowledge of their existence) and have “opinions” about everything. That person’s life, choices, achievements or lack of. I personally, don’t care what the hell someone else is doing with their lives. As long as they’re not hurting me or anyone I care about…why should I? Especially, if I don’t know them. I do look at people like politicians, religious heads and people in the position of fundamental responsibility, like teachers, doctors, etc…and care what influence THEY have on the world. They are a big part of what can go right and wrong with an average life. Yet still, I cannot judge, because in order to know you must go through it…in THEIR skin. Your shit…ain’t my shit…ain’t the next person’s shit. Two teen moms don’t necessarily share the same issues because of what THEIR own environment was like. One could’ve been supported by their family…the other not. SO…I keep my mouth shut unless it is something that is atrociously out of order for the sake of what is right.

Hating on people’s careers…choices…relationships…mistakes…etc…is a bit much to me. Everyone’s mouth is moving 24/7 about something that isn’t their shit to understand. STFU!!! Nit picking away every little thing…when your shit is CRACKED and on the ground,! My girl Celeste said to me, “Hurt people, hurt people” and she was right. Broken, fractured, fragile people, sitting back hating…yes HATING on the success of others. If someone is out there, grinding it out…bless em. If someone is struggling against demons…bless em. If someone is trying to do something positive…bless em. Why is it so hard to just be happy for someone out there LIVING and not just BEING? Oh, and for the record…no one can remain at the top forever. We all have and will fall short. We all mess up and live to regret it…such is life…but, sitting back in judgment and disdain for others…especially folk who will never hear nor care about your little “opinion” is over the top, straight HATING!

This came from watching a SLEW of bullshit, hating-ass comments on Twitter. I’m so glad half of em were retweets…that way, I can be proud to not have been following some of these hateful individuals…PLEASE don’t make me break out that video!!! lmaoo

Assholes and Opinions

LAWD, I’ve been DYING to use this picture. Chap found it for me and I just wasn’t ready to dig into this topic.

My sista Dionne loves to say that…”Assholes are like opinions, everybody has one…so give me your asshole.” lol  It’s true though. People tend to really dole those out freely and willy nilly, like they’re being paid to pontificate. Just because you state a thing, doesn’t mean you need counter points. Sometimes, it’s as simple as getting something off your chest and relieving some inner tension. Yea, yea, yea..I know. With freedom of speech, comes a hidden price. There are indeed repercussions for everything…even those things that are done with the best of intentions. Having said that…onto the slinging of assholes.

You ever meet or talk to someone who has ALL the “right” information? Everything they say is by the book, from a book…or quoted by someone who saw the shit on a book…a long time ago? GEEEZ…you do NOT have to know everything. It is perfectly okay to say “I don’t know”. It’s okay to say…” to each his own”. YES…to EACH his OWN! That means (for the slow babies sitting Indian-style on the floor) that each person has a right to see things how they see them. DEAL how they want to deal…or just be who they want. You can drop a seed and water it…but you can’t shine the light JUST right. It’s not in your control. So, when a person has all of these things that are supposed to go a certain way based on some knowledge learned and their own personal beliefs. Go HEAD with that!

How about the person that said something was one way and when proven to be wrong says, “Oh that’s what I said/meant…” NO you didn’t! Just admit that you were wrong and knew NOTHING…but you didn’t want to look stupid, so you stuck to your guns on something unproven and unresearched, because you’d rather save face. DAMN. It’s OKAY. No one knows it ALL. We’re all students to this universal university. Sitting in tutelage by someone smarter and wiser. Feeling our way through the dark, turning lights on along the way. We all have frailities. There are things about us all that make us the perfectly imperfect creations we are. It’s those weaknesses that put a stamp on our personalities and round us out as individuals. If you know something…fine, pass it on. Righteousness is a virtue of generous nature. You must pass it on to help someone else rise above ignorance, but please don’t make the mistake of of believing you behold the answer to it all.

Maybe you need to see this video I love by a Youtuber who tells it straight no chaser!