The Thirty First Day…

…Bonus Day: Pick a day you haven’t described and share

Well, first off…THANK YOU CHALLENGE TAKERS!!! I appreciate all of those who have participated (and are finishing up) for taking on this little blog exercise. Once or twice a year I try to take one of these on to bring about a myriad of goals. I strive to have consistency in writing, to blog things that mean something to each and every one of us on a personal level and for you who have a blog (or 5 like me) …it’s a way to keep your audience’s attention. I go so long between blog posts that it feels like a ghost town, but these challenges keeps the writer in me and the blogger some love…on their toes.

On to this last day’s challenge…

I had a lot of days that I didn’t get to share. In retrospect, I found a lot of days that could’ve been a part of this challenge…but, hey…hindsight is 20/20. Anyway. I’m gonna play a little bit of “The Day I met…” and factor in MANY days, Hey! It’s my DAY, I’ll dump a whole buncha days in iffin I wanna!!! O_O

I’ll do it chronologically for my mind’s sake. lol:

“THE DAY I MET MY INNANET FRIENDS”

la tres mariposas

Joy & Celeste: HA! I met Joy and Celeste on DECEMBER 6th of 2008! We’d been howdy-doodying online for a bit and decided to have a meeting of the butterflies. SO, Mama Butterfly, Butterfly Effect and the Celestial Butterfly met at Joy’s apartment in the Bronx and made a weekend of it. I ain’t gone tell y’all ALL of the debauchery and fuckshit that went down, just know…divorcing these two is NOT an option…we all know too much about each other. ctfu

OH, that sucka JOY? FIRST thing she said to me upon meeting me at the train station, “DAMN  Kiwi…you LIGHT-skinneded!!” yea…that is why I punch her every time I see her. lol

a diva and an almond

DIVA: I met Diva on an October weekend in 2009. (I think it was ’09). Anyway. Joy and I went to the airport, picked her up, hopped a taxi and headed to the SAME hotel I had my birthday weekend in 3+ years later! We had fun. We went to MAC and got make up, went out to eat, got drunk, talked shit, and had SOME one O_O send us a nassy pic to which we passed around like drunken college boys. lmaooo. GOOD times I tell ya…GOOD times.

three smexy summabiscuits

Maria: On the weekend of 911 in 2011, Joy and I met Maria in Times Square with her then-boo and we commenced to cut up. I got a little tipsy, but that’s par for the course. lol We ate, laughed, took pics around the table and had the best couple of hours we could fit in until Ria had to go. 😦 …it was on THAT weekend that I found out Maria ain’t THAT much taller than me. Yea, she thought she’d be towering over me. NOT. psssh…old delusions of grandeur type shit. lol

deebo and kali simpson lol

DeAnna: Me and Dee met in Boston, Mass on the weekend of June 29th 2012…because she was stalking Phil Perry’s schedule. lol She wanted to go somewhere she’d never been with someone she’d never met and I fit the bill. hehe. She invited me and paid for me to get to her. (Isn’t she a doll?) I got there first and waited impatiently for her. I kept looking out the door like, “Where the hell she at?”.  She’d had a delay and got there just in time to not be TOO late for Phil’s performance. We swayed and took pics of him in the dark *ctfu* and once it was over? I LOST her. She’d tracked that man down and I looked up to see that she’d snapped a pic with him. I turned my back for ONE minute…goodness. lol.

We also went on a boat ride, which was lovely…and found a reason to keep going to the concierge for the sinful chocolate chip cookies out of the magic ubbin behind the desk. Doubletree is the DEBIL for that. (I can taste ’em now…)

squeezing for a pic…wife, dat sucka and me. lol

Tina: I met my Wife [insider] on my birthday weekend this year.  The ORIGINAL plan was for Tina to come before the Christmas holiday, but we couldn’t get it together quick enough in that time frame. I suggested she come and spend my 40th with me [and Joy] instead. It was my 40th after all and I’d love for her to be one of the folks I shared it with. So the party snowballed from there. I swear, Joy, Tina and me are frickin CLOWNS. We stayed laughing the entire time. Tina got to meet some old friends of mine as well as my sis, cousin and godsis. We promised we’d have another chance SOON to do more cutting up.

I’m looking forward to not only spending more time with these ladies, but meeting MORE friends in the near future. I can’t wait to see who I meet next!! *singing* “Rolling with the homieeeees”

***did you all pick up on the running theme? once I met Joy…we rolled together meeting everyone else (except in Dee’s case). Ha! 

Where to Next?

I’ve been on the internet for about 7yrs strong. Before that, I knew nothing about chat rooms, blogs, etc. I was on the net (via AOL) just existing in IM’s with loved ones and distant friends and the occasional game.

By 2006, I was on Myspace and then a Yahoo site called 360. Soon after, I’d get pages on Multiply, Facebook, Twitter, tumblr and a few others that are now either defunct or have been overshadowed by the internet titans. lol

Yahoo 360 brought me a LOT of cool people. From there, I learned about online talk shows, blogging, picture sharing, and learned to share my writing and poetry. Due to Yahoo 360, I’ve been a talk show co-host, a blogger with my own little following, fallen in love and tripped out of it…and found SO many beautiful women that I call sister. In 2008 I visited Alabama and Philadelphia. I didn’t have to go far to meet a few of my girls, because they’re from NY and NJ. By 2009, I’d graced DC with my presence (meeting a couple of people but not HALF of whom I wanted to), because I was helping with my godson. Just last year in 2011, I met another sistar when she came to NJ/NY from NC. How we met is nothing short of awkward (for the average), but we made the best out of a painful situation. I’ve had some really cool experiences.  A couple of those friendships are no longer. In one instance it was hard…the other not so much. Either way, I’ve had a good time meeting people who I’ve met online and spent time talking to on the phone, IM’s, statuses and blogs.

Just last week, I met my sistar Dee from Illinois. I met her on Multiply when she was dating a friend on my list. He introduced us all to her and eventually, we became sistars. We’d been talking for the longest while she dated him…but, the true closeness came about after they’d broken up. After that it was a done deal and we officially became confidantes.

The view from our room…1414

When she said she wanted to go to Boston to see Phil Perry in concert, I was like, “Okay…that sounds nice…” and then she said, “I want you to come, too!” I was stoked and said yes immediately. I had my issues with the traveling, due to the Narcolepsy…but, I knew I could do it. I have family in Boston and was pleased to see a couple of my cousins while there. They were so sweet and made sure that I got to the hotel safely. That was a blessing all in itself to know that I wasn’t “flying blind”.

We had a so much fun together. Friday night in Boston kicked off with Phil Perry’s stellar performance. After that, we retired to the room we were staying in at the Doubletree and used the rest of the evening to talk, laugh and solidify our sisterly bond. The next day, we hopped a shuttle bus and ended up on a boat ride across the river. It was such a beautiful day. The breeze was gorgeous and I conquered a fear of boats. We had to leave the next day so besides the boat ride, the picture-taking and dinner…we had to prepare.

Coming back across the river

The weekend, however short…was well worth any travel snafus either of us encountered coming and going. I had so much fun and was very happy to have been able to say I’ve met yet ANOTHER sweet and generous soul that I call friend. I pray that I get to meet all of those who have been and are a significant part of my everyday online existence. God willing, I’ll meet everyone and put to bed the assumption that you can’t find true friends or trust people over the Internet. My best friends are from this thing…and I wouldn’t have it any other way!

So, Whose got next?

Almost…

We’re almost finished this challenge. A lot of us are on our last day…a few still struggling down the middle (mostly due to unforeseen issues) and the rest are on the heels of myself and a few others.

I just want to say THANK YOU!!! Thank you all who have participated and those who have taken the time to read and take a piece of us with you. I don’t know one person involved in this challenge that didn’t get in and roll their sleeves up. Some of you shocked me with your honesty…some of you showed me a more tender side to you. All in all…I had a wonderful time with this cathartic exercise in Love & Truth.

I got beat up a little…some inboxes, trips to my Facebook wall…even a few shout outs mid-blog. Folks was hunting me down at times wanting to know, “What in the hell is up with these questions, Kali?” …Not so much because they weren’t “good” questions but because they were the kind that made people dig up the past and come face to face with a few things they may have thought they were over. Hell, even I was feeling some kinda way about the questions. I didn’t figure into account while posing them that I’d be answering as well. I could’ve kicked my OWN ass a few times. LOL

I hope that you all received the heart of this challenge. It was made to give us a glimpse into our past and present while giving us a cleaner slate for the future.

Again…THANK you dear loves…

Leelee, you went hard. I saw things in your blog that broke my heart for you. Your utter honesty about YOU and how you see yourself was refreshing and fearless at the same time. I genuinely had to ask myself at one point was I…the creator of this damn challenge, being nearly as candid as you were. KUDOS and hats off to you, sis.

Maria, I remember you wanted to do this challenge when I mentioned it…you were pretty excited. Well, now…you pretty much tell me everyday how you can’t wait for this shit to be over. LMAO Nonetheless…I applaud your commitment. You didn’t give up and I’m so very proud of you.

Budda, You brought it girl…but, then I knew you would. Raw, to the point, and willing to look within. I enjoyed your blogs and I’m sure that if/when we pull another challenge out the air…you’ll join and bring it all over again. ((HUGS))

Tina, I know this challenge got a little rough for you, too. I pray that being able to say certain things made things a little easier…even if only in retrospect. I appreciate you so much…I love when people push themselves emotionally to get to a point past fear. Sometimes THAT is the only reward…that you did it when you didn’t think you could. 😀

Gina, you jumped in at the last minute and took off out the gate like a prize greyhound. LOL You were blogging your little heart out. Love it…still have to catch up…give mama a minute. LMAO

Monica…you too, jumped in like a woman trying to swim her way to shore. Your offerings were nothing less than full on memoir quality. This challenge was made for people like you…those seeking to reconcile their memories and pain with who they are today. I’d say you’ve got a pretty good hold on who you are. Stay creative and thank you for showing love to everyone involved.

Mahogany…my Bookie. 😀 Of course I expected NOTHING less from you than the raw, unabridged, unadulterated truth. You’re always bare to your readers so I’m always proud to have you on the blog roll. LOVE you, Ladybug

Joy, I know you’re catching up to yours AND my challenge. A lot has jumped off since we started the erotica challenge almost 2 months ago. I’m still proud that even if only in drips…you continue trying to finish. Whether you do or not…I’m sure you’re on your way to a wonderful new place of peace and love. (((HUGS)))

Kena, I know you barely got through yours, but I still appreciate the effort. Hopefully next time you will make it to the 30th day 😀 lol

Dee, I made you last…because you were the inspiration behind this challenge. When ending the erotic one, you mentioned needing a reason to write because having to write everyday helped you a lot. As soon as you said that this challenge popped into my mind. Thanks for the inspiration, the support and the honesty. You were NO slouch in the “tell-all” department. You gave all you had and shared things that I know where hard for you, especially since they were on the surface at the time. Thank you sis…LOVE you oodles!

These ladies are writing BESIDES their part in my challenge. Their links are on the side under “Dem Challenge Takers” so please hit them up and see what they’re giving us. They all are different, yet entertaining, educational and crazy as all get out. LOL Show them some love please…

**Almost home**

~Kween

GOOOOOOOAL!!





YES!!! The 31st day of October means the LAST day of the National Blog Post Month Challenge. My baby girl, Lala or Kissyface, as I call her…asked me via Twitter to participate and I dragged in a few pals so I wouldn’t suffer alone. LMAO. I Kid…I kid. I am thankful for those who came along and put on their blogging drawlz. You all did your thing. I have to say…this was a VERY important month and Lala is like some kinda on-purpose-by-accident GENIUS. This month, two very important platforms were championed. Breast Cancer Awareness Month and Domestic Violence Awareness month came and is now gone, but the disease and the dilemmas of violence remain. There has been some really good stories concerning both on the blogs of those who came along on this ride with me. Please go take a peek at the list of lovelies who participated.


I will now say THANK YOU, ladies and gents for participating. I love you all. You made me proud. There were some days that NONE of us wanted to blog, but we pulled together and did it. What’s the purpose you say? We’ve shared our stories/testimonies, we’ve learned SO much about each other, we’ve gained connections (I see you guys out there following each other and holding each other down in the comments!), we’ve grown literally, LITERALLY…and we’ve expressed ourselves in a forum where we’ve been supported and applauded. 


MY JOY!! You did it!! I remember last year…you tried, but you didn’t get through it due to some unforeseen things going on. THIS year…in SPITE of what came at you, you caught bullets in your teeth and became this wonder-blogger that I’m SO proud of. Sis, I love you. Thanks for coming along.


DEE aka Afrodeezha! WOW. Your last blog had me in tears, and I shed a little as I write this. Your stories were motivational, real, well-rounded and inspiring. I learned more about you and cherish you dearly (as if I could love you more). Thank you for coming along…and dragging…


THUGROCKSTAR!!! You ROCK babe! You put it down over there. You’re FUNNY, witty, intelligent and damned consistent. You’re definitely a blog worth following and reading. I dig you man…I dig you…you buttery mothafucka! LMAO (I kid…please don’t beat me up. *mind wandering* okay…shaking off that vision) HAHA!!


GOD’ESS! ~ Woman…you were more prompt than  ME most days. LOL I wish I’d gotten the chance to read your blogs on 360, but we weren’t connected then. NOW that we are…I can honestly say this (and I’m not being biased). What YOU thought was short, considered “cheating” and may have thought you didn’t put your all in…beats out a LOT of folks’ blogs who do “put their all in” to their blogs and fail MISERABLY! Your posts were thoughtful, thought provoking, intimate and straight to the point. That is needed…especially in the day of the short attention span. I’m glad you are now blogging…I’m sure after a short siesta you’ll return…right? O_O lol…THANK you and LOVE you!


MY SUNDAE! You tried. LOL. It’s not easy, but you tried. I love that you did. I know you’re a woman about the world…superwoman with the prettiest locs flying in the wind, free-spirited aloft the city…so yea. LOL LOVE YOU STILL. (she still has some read-worthy blogs…go getchusum). Thanks, sis!


Last, but not la-la-least…Lala. Kissyface. Artsyface. The girl with the rocker look and the sweet girl voice. THANK YOU! Thanks for bringing me along and for inspiring this year AND last year’s challenge. You’ve helped me to cultivate my blogger skills by being able to write impromptu and without thinking twice. I’m soooo in my head when thinking up blog topics, but this challenge has helped me just remove the filter and say what I need to say. Thanks again, babe. Love you much! (Um, can you inform me the next time you pack your blog bags and move? Please and thanks in advance)


~phew~ I’m done, y’all…see you in a few days…or weeks. lol


*doing my end zone dance* GOOOOOOOOOOOOAL!!!!!!