STFU!!! (a lil rant)

I’m gonna piggyback on a blog my girl [fungke] [blak] [chik] wrote, called “If You Can’t Take An Opinon, Stop Reading My Blog“. In it, she stated how often people say, “you’re hating” when it’s really an opinion. It’s ok you, know..NOT to like something or someone. We all have a right, so to speak…to our own opinions. I mean, I learned in elementary school the difference between fact and opinion. Need a recap? Fact is real, proven and indisputable. Opinion is a guess, a perceptive statement and easily refuted. I see it every day…people get riled up with opinion. It’s one of the reason why in spite of being somewhat of an “intellect” *gagging* I tend to work HARD of late…to keep my opinions to myself. I can remember when I used to debate a thing to death…but I so hate arguing nowadays. I’d be trying so hard…not to get them to agree…but to be open to why I’d think differently. You know how you say, “let’s agree to disagree”? That rarely happens. Most people walk away thinking either, “She’s a know-it-all” or “She’s an asshole”…and either way…the point you were trying to make falls away to stubborn opinion.

O-pin-ion..take the p and i out (your personal interest) and you have the word onion. LOL Yep…layers of shit that just brings tears…or just stinks. So, indeed…I know we have them and am used to people dispensing theirs like penny candy.

BUT…the hating? Well that is different. Hating to ME (my asshole) is when it’s not just an opinion…which usually stems from preference. It’s when it stems from an envy or jealousy. OR when it comes from self-hate and being unfulfilled personally. YES, people look at others who are doing them (without knowledge of their existence) and have “opinions” about everything. That person’s life, choices, achievements or lack of. I personally, don’t care what the hell someone else is doing with their lives. As long as they’re not hurting me or anyone I care about…why should I? Especially, if I don’t know them. I do look at people like politicians, religious heads and people in the position of fundamental responsibility, like teachers, doctors, etc…and care what influence THEY have on the world. They are a big part of what can go right and wrong with an average life. Yet still, I cannot judge, because in order to know you must go through it…in THEIR skin. Your shit…ain’t my shit…ain’t the next person’s shit. Two teen moms don’t necessarily share the same issues because of what THEIR own environment was like. One could’ve been supported by their family…the other not. SO…I keep my mouth shut unless it is something that is atrociously out of order for the sake of what is right.

Hating on people’s careers…choices…relationships…mistakes…etc…is a bit much to me. Everyone’s mouth is moving 24/7 about something that isn’t their shit to understand. STFU!!! Nit picking away every little thing…when your shit is CRACKED and on the ground,! My girl Celeste said to me, “Hurt people, hurt people” and she was right. Broken, fractured, fragile people, sitting back hating…yes HATING on the success of others. If someone is out there, grinding it out…bless em. If someone is struggling against demons…bless em. If someone is trying to do something positive…bless em. Why is it so hard to just be happy for someone out there LIVING and not just BEING? Oh, and for the record…no one can remain at the top forever. We all have and will fall short. We all mess up and live to regret it…such is life…but, sitting back in judgment and disdain for others…especially folk who will never hear nor care about your little “opinion” is over the top, straight HATING!

This came from watching a SLEW of bullshit, hating-ass comments on Twitter. I’m so glad half of em were retweets…that way, I can be proud to not have been following some of these hateful individuals…PLEASE don’t make me break out that video!!! lmaoo

Assholes and Opinions

LAWD, I’ve been DYING to use this picture. Chap found it for me and I just wasn’t ready to dig into this topic.

My sista Dionne loves to say that…”Assholes are like opinions, everybody has one…so give me your asshole.” lolĀ  It’s true though. People tend to really dole those out freely and willy nilly, like they’re being paid to pontificate. Just because you state a thing, doesn’t mean you need counter points. Sometimes, it’s as simple as getting something off your chest and relieving some inner tension. Yea, yea, yea..I know. With freedom of speech, comes a hidden price. There are indeed repercussions for everything…even those things that are done with the best of intentions. Having said that…onto the slinging of assholes.

You ever meet or talk to someone who has ALL the “right” information? Everything they say is by the book, from a book…or quoted by someone who saw the shit on a book…a long time ago? GEEEZ…you do NOT have to know everything. It is perfectly okay to say “I don’t know”. It’s okay to say…” to each his own”. YES…to EACH his OWN! That means (for the slow babies sitting Indian-style on the floor) that each person has a right to see things how they see them. DEAL how they want to deal…or just be who they want. You can drop a seed and water it…but you can’t shine the light JUST right. It’s not in your control. So, when a person has all of these things that are supposed to go a certain way based on some knowledge learned and their own personal beliefs. Go HEAD with that!

How about the person that said something was one way and when proven to be wrong says, “Oh that’s what I said/meant…” NO you didn’t! Just admit that you were wrong and knew NOTHING…but you didn’t want to look stupid, so you stuck to your guns on something unproven and unresearched, because you’d rather save face. DAMN. It’s OKAY. No one knows it ALL. We’re all students to this universal university. Sitting in tutelage by someone smarter and wiser. Feeling our way through the dark, turning lights on along the way. We all have frailities. There are things about us all that make us the perfectly imperfect creations we are. It’s those weaknesses that put a stamp on our personalities and round us out as individuals. If you know something…fine, pass it on. Righteousness is a virtue of generous nature. You must pass it on to help someone else rise above ignorance, but please don’t make the mistake of of believing you behold the answer to it all.

Maybe you need to see this video I love by a Youtuber who tells it straight no chaser!